In light of celebrating my 4 year wedding anniversary today, I wanted to talk about the way marriages are viewed today (especially in the DC area). I often hear people say “Marriages don’t work,” or that “It’s just a piece of paper.” Well, I am living proof that that is the furthest from the truth. If you keep telling yourself something won’t work, guess what? It probably won’t!
What you want to remember if you ever want to get married, or remarried is that marriage is not supposed to be easy. If it was, everyone would be doing it, and divorces would be slim to none. If we change our view about things, the things that we look at change. We have people now thinking that it is more beneficial to be in a long-term relationship than to make a commitment to having a lifelong unity. Well if you can commit to someone forever, why not marry them? That same piece of paper (marriage license) that makes your marriage recognized by law holds more weight than some think. It is the only license that exists that does not have an expiration date. It can not be revoked, suspended, or enforced by law. The institution of marriage is based on complete free will in our culture and we have a choice of who we marry. Just make the decision carefully, and you control the outcome, in most cases.
If we put as much effort into our relationships as we did on our careers or our appearance, there is a much higher chance at success. For those who are skeptical about marriage, the easy way ends up being the much harder way in the long run. Marriage makes all the sacrifices you were going to make anyway worth it. And if that’s not enough, tell yourself this: anything worth having takes work. When you are ready to give up, remember why you held on so long in the first place.