I am a petite woman, 5’2 and 110 pounds. I have really small breasts and always wished I could be more buxom. My husband was a very fit man but he recently let himself go. His eating habits have become horrible. He stopped going to the gym and refuses to do any physical activity. He now has bigger boobs than I do! I always wanted bigger breasts but never imagined they’d be on my husband. I am turned off by the new him and have to force myself to be intimate. Do I ask my husband to lose weight or grin and bear it in name of love?
Wishful Thinker (Fredericksburg, VA)
I guess it’s true what they say, “Be careful what you wish for your just might get it!” This sudden and drastic lifestyle change sounds indicative of a deeper issue. The first thing you should do is, get to the source of the problem without mentioning your husband’s weight. Many men internalize their feelings, but try to get your husband to open up. He could be dealing with an emotional, psychological or medical issue. Next, encourage him to see a physician. Explain to your husband that you are concerned about his weight because of the health risk. Finally, be both adamant and supportive of him dropping the pounds but acquiesce to the idea you signed up for–”for better or for worse.” Whether he has man boobs or sexy pecs, he’s still your husband.
Best of Luck!
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