I’m a 31-year old single woman and I need to save some money in this tough economy. A friend of mine offered me to move in and share her 2 bedroom apartment. We have been friends for a few years but she has a couple of habits that bother me. She smokes and she dates married men. For the sake of my finances, should I bite the bullet and move in with her?
Desperately Seeking A Roomie (Washington, DC)
It sounds like you are being a bit judgmental. The fact that your friend risks her health by smoking cigarettes and chooses to date married men, while it may be outside your moral parameter, has no impact on how you live your life whatsoever. Really…What’s it to you if she’s not exposing you to second hand smoke or getting too friendly with your dates? Besides…most smokers, that room with non-smokers, agree not to smoke in the house. Friendly concern is one thing, but this sounds like judgment. It’s difficult enough figuring out how we should live our own lives. Why add the mental burden of figuring out how other people should live theirs? It will better serve both your friendship and living situation if you search for a roommate that fits your personal criteria or get a part time gig and continue living on your own. Either way, happy hunting!
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