Deperately Seeking A Roomie

Deperately Seeking A Roomie

I’m a 31-year old single woman and I need to save some money in this tough economy.  A friend of mine offered me to move in and share her 2 bedroom apartment.  We have been friends for a few years but she has a couple of habits that bother me.  She smokes and she dates married men.  For the sake of my finances, should I bite the bullet and move in with her? 

Desperately Seeking A Roomie (Washington, DC)



It sounds like you are being a bit judgmental.  The fact that your friend risks her health by smoking cigarettes and chooses to date married men, while it may be outside your moral parameter, has no impact on how you live your life whatsoever.  Really…What’s it to you if she’s not exposing you to second hand smoke or getting too friendly with your dates?  Besides…most smokers, that room with non-smokers, agree not to smoke in the house.   Friendly concern is one thing, but this sounds like judgment.  It’s difficult enough figuring out how we should live our own lives.  Why add the mental burden of figuring out how other people should live theirs?  It will better serve both your friendship and living situation if you search for a roommate that fits your personal criteria or get a part time gig and continue living on your own.  Either way, happy hunting!




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5 Responses

  1. Ron 06. Oct, 2009 at 6:08 pm #

    I would just get a cheaper place that I could afford. Smoke hell naw, that’s not lady like. Who wants a female that smells like smoke. Major turn off

  2. Monae 06. Oct, 2009 at 6:27 pm #

    Well I don’t like cigarrette smoke myself so that would be a hard bullet for me to bite. BUT like April said many agree to smoke outside of the home. The only thing is unless it’s in a written agreement those kinds of promises tend to be broken. The married men issue should not concern you or keep you from saving on your finances. We all have surrounded ourselves or encountered someone who’s lifestyle we don’t agree with. In the end it’s how we live our own lives. And you don’t want to live it with financial stress so I say take her up on it lol.

  3. Sonya 06. Oct, 2009 at 6:27 pm #

    In my personal opinion I don’t think you should move in. It seems to me like you already are pre-judging on what she does with her personal life and if you think she is going to stop smoking in the apartment you have another thing coming. It may start out with her smoking outside…however once those cold months hit…you can forget it…she will be in her room and you will smell it seeping thru the towel she used to keep the smoke from coming out… I say if you do not want to move again in a couple of months…you should keep on looking and find someone that lives their life along the lines that you do!!

  4. Diva 06. Oct, 2009 at 6:28 pm #

    Please do not move in with her, those habits are immoral and irritating and in my opinion is not merely judgemental. For your sanity and well being choose a suitable roommate some one who does not smoke and possess whigh standards and morals.

    I wonder if Ms. Watts would mind if we dated her mate, man or husband as well as decided it is judgemental once a good friends tries to counsel the home-wrecker about it?


  5. NETTE 06. Oct, 2009 at 6:35 pm #


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