I have always wanted to go on a cruise. A male acquaintance of mine is going on a cruise in three months and invited me to come along. He was sharing a cabin with someone who has backed out. He has told me that I can share the cabin with him, free of charge. Am I naïve in thinking that I can take this trip with this man with no strings attached?
Anonymous (Laurel, MD)
Wow!! I can see how a free cruise could be very tempting, especially considering you’ve never had the experience. Taking a dream vacay on somebody else’s dime?? SWEEEEET DEAL… theoretically. But, before you make a decision, there are some things to consider.
Why you? If this gentleman is an acquaintance, the two of you know each other superficially. Why would someone that is not a good friend, family member, or significant other offer you a free cruise that happens to require you to share a cabin? Maybe “Mr. Vacation” is just paying-it-forward, but this scenario is curious at best and shady at worst.
Lost in translation? Men and women have a language that is unspoken but often heard through body language, gestures, actions, and insinuation. Is it possible that by inviting you on this free cruise, “Mr. Vacation” is telling you something that you aren’t hearing, misinterpreting or choosing to ignore? Some men believe every woman has a price. Is it possible ”Mr. Vacation” is telling you he thinks your price is this cruise?
What is it worth? Anonymous, you said you always wanted to go on a cruise, but at what expense? Will you enjoy yourself if you feel obligated to be in the company of “Mr. Vacation” the entire time? What if you meet a handsome man and want to “get your groove back,” Stella? What if you want to take the time to be introspective and get centered?
They say the best things in life are free, but all of my womanly instincts tell me this vacation isn’t one of them. You want to go on a cruise and you deserve that experience free of awkwardness or any strings that will be attached. Save your coins, Mama, and treat yourself to a cruise with the company of your choice. A vacation on your own terms will be so much sweeter!
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